MY FIANCE’S WEDDING SHOCKED ME
Every evening, he would escort me out of the fellowship and see me off to my lodge.
I could feel the piercing stares of the other ladies each time we left the premises.
I didn’t blame them, it was natural.
Having the most handsome guy in the fellowship hang around me, was worth the stares.
We would talk for hours on the phone, laugh and joke.
I got so emotionally attached to him that I couldn’t stay a day without speaking with him.
We became very close to each other.
We spoke about our life plans, goals and ambitions, and I was impressed with the way he thought and with the plans he had.
I kept seeing myself in the future he always spoke about.
I kept creating a space for myself there.
In my head, I already saw him as my fiance.
Infact, I even told a few of my friends that he was my fiance.
One night, he made a statement that I got to understand later on.
“Abigail, the man who will marry you would be a lucky man.
I would gladly be in attendance on your wedding day, while I watch you both” he said to me one night, during one of our lengthy calls.
I thought he was only joking and laughed it off.
I never knew that the amount of truth in that statement was a hundred percent.
I went online one fateful evening, to find a message from him on WhatsApp.
He sent me some pictures with the caption, “Be our guest” attached.
My heart stopped beating as I waited for the pictures to load.
The whole world came to a halt as the clear pictures were displayed before me.
Right in my phone, was a picture of him and his fiancee, to whom he was getting married.
My world crumbled at that point.
“Ben, how could you do this to me?
Why did you lead me on and leave me halfway?
Why did you toy with my emotions?” tears flowed freely as I asked the questions in my room.
I walked up to him the next day after Church.
I confronted him, and he told me the harsh truth.
“I never said I was in love with you or wanted to marry you.
We were never in a relationship” he told me, breaking my heart the more.
Ben dealt me a great blow, and it took the grace of God for me to recover.
If only I had asked questions when I was supposed to.
If only I had set boundaries.
If only I hadn’t assumed.
I would have saved myself the heartbreak.
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Setting clear boundaries is very important.
Ask that guy hanging around you about his intentions.
Ask that lady clinging to you about her intentions.
Don’t assume.
Assumption is deadly.
No one should toy with your emotions.
They shouldn’t act like it if they are not it.
©️ Rejoice James Jev
